Kids melting down? Share a Peace & Pit.

Maybe you’re trying to enjoy a family dinner at the end of a long day. You’re curious about what happened at school today, or something wonderful or terrible happened to you at work, or your whole day flashed by in a blink. You want to be a good parent and make meaningful conversation, but the kids are melting down (and you’re about to).

 

Share a Peach and a Pit.

 

Go around your table and have each person share the sweetest, best, funnest (yes, that’s a real word just for this meal) thing that happened today. Don’t think about it too long – just whatever comes to mind. Then have everyone share the part of their day that was the worst, maybe something hard or unexpected, like when you bite too far into a peach and crunch against the pit.

 

What does this little exercise accomplish?

It gives everyone an equal chance to talk. Sometimes we just want everyone’s undivided attention, even for a few minutes.

It gives everyone an opportunity to listen. We all need to practice this skill – adults and children alike.

It gives everyone a moment to reflect. With our busy lives and fast-paced screens, we have to be intentional about valuing time to consider and express instead of always acting and reacting.

It gathers us around shared experiences. We all celebrate the A on the spelling test, and we cheer the prime parking spot on a busy shopping trip. We all wince when the boss blamed you for someone else’s mistake, and we feel the butterflies in our stomach during your oral presentation. For a brief time, big people and little people together, we share a moment or two of our day and connect over the mundane and the profound.

And that makes life sweeter.

 

For other ideas on how to occupy kids while waiting for your meal, see our other post.

Gina Tuck